LET'S TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE (prelude)

 

  A GLORIFIED MISUNDERSTANDING. 

 

Growing up, I had this predetermined idea of what marriage would look like. A beautiful wife, a big house, a few kids, an outstanding marriage, etc. Pretty much every piece of fanatical "Happily Ever After" crap that Disney fed us in the '90s. However, through the years, I've gained a better understanding of what "marriage" is; as well as what it is supposed to look like. And while these different lessons have benefited me in my thinking and approach to the subject, I can't help but feel that the rest of the world is steps behind. Don't misunderstand. I'm not saying the rest of the world has to think exactly as I do, not in the slightest. The rest of the world doesn't even have to agree on anything I say; be it truth or opinion. Much of these entries will be based on how I feel and how my foundation (that of a Christian) is set up. Of course, biblical facts and common sense will be included. The objective for these entries will be to illuminate the simplicities of marriage and address the issues we currently have and hold on to and with each other.

Case in point, some of the pettiest arguments and disagreements stem from the differences in how some marriages are run. Sure, the conversation MUST be had for the advancement of the Kingdom and for the sake of obtaining and maintaining a successful marriage, but we can do so without speaking down to or unjust judgment toward one another. "Men" this and "women" that. That's all it's ever about. No accountability. No responsibility is taken. Just an endless back and forth dance, riddled with accusations against the opposite sex. Here's a thought: what if we just grew up and stopped the blameshifting and have a decent conversation on what we can do right while RESPECTFULLY pointing out our faults.

These entries are open to conversation. Will you agree or disagree with me, I'm not entirely sure. One thing is for certain: we have to get to the bottom of this and set some records. Stay tuned.